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meet the predator
call me jenie
born on 02/20/83 after my Dad & Mom drank beer and ate balut 9 months before
lives in Singapore, but always a Pinoy at heart
works as an advertising copywriter, but hates proofreading her blog entries
loves true friends, fake DVD's, alternative music, alcohol, sarcasm, boxing, hatha yoga, and House (the TV series,not the music genre)
loathes indifference, power trippers, narcissists, giant egos and bad breath
tries to live by the quote "Postpone death by living, by suffering, by error, by risking, by giving, by losing." by Anais Nin
Growing Pains
I had a meaningful conversation with my officemate last night. He’s 34 and he’s been through a lot in terms of having relationships, and I’d say I learned from his pointers.
It all started when we heard our boss call his wife on the phone. He called her "Hon". My officemate whispered "Namiss ko na yung may tinatawag na ‘Hon’, as he hit his chest with his fist jokingly. I asked him, "Ganun ba talaga yon? You actually miss that?" Being the newbie that I am, he explained to me that you actually miss having someone after a while. It grows on you, and you can’t help it. "Ayoko ng ganun, oh no! I don’t want to be too dependent emotionally." He goes, "Kala mo lang ‘yon."
On our way to Greenbelt, he told me about the book entitled "The Missing Piece" and "The Missing Piece meets the Big O", its continuation. It reiterated the fact that two people can be in a relationship and not lose their identity. The former talks about singlehood and how one should discover himself first. It is about fitting in a world full of complexities.
The latter seems more interesting, I guess. It’s about the missing piece finding someone to have a relationship with. But this time, there seems to be a problem. The missing piece, which is shaped like a triangle can’t seem to roll with the round O. It suggested that he can probably go inside the circle and roll with his partner. Yet it’s not that easy. Big O can’t roll properly, and there are times when the missing piece may grow beyond the round piece. They had a hard time rolling together because the missing piece always wanted to depend on the Big O. It was independent and complete in himself, so he had no problem.
One day, Big O told the Missing Piece to roll on his own. He complained, and asked how that can possible since he had sharp edges as a triangle. The Big O didn’t know what to say. The Missing Piece agreed, no matter how difficult it may take. Later on, he began to have smoothened edges after all his attempts to roll with his partner.
The time finally came when the Missing Piece and the Big O were rolling together, side by side. And they lived happily ever after. :)
Morale of the Story: Having a relationship means growing together, as separate individuals. Besides, co-dependency is not love.
1:05 PM
Tuesday, June 07, 2005
