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meet the predator
call me jenie
born on 02/20/83 after my Dad & Mom drank beer and ate balut 9 months before
lives in Singapore, but always a Pinoy at heart
works as an advertising copywriter, but hates proofreading her blog entries
loves true friends, fake DVD's, alternative music, alcohol, sarcasm, boxing, hatha yoga, and House (the TV series,not the music genre)
loathes indifference, power trippers, narcissists, giant egos and bad breath
tries to live by the quote "Postpone death by living, by suffering, by error, by risking, by giving, by losing." by Anais Nin
looking for a male roommate?
Today marks his last day at work. I can tell how excited he is to finally move here and find a job, amidst all the obstacles and stress he’s bound to go through. Nonetheless, I’m proud of his determination and his efforts just for us to be together again. Thank goodness we discovered the EPEC option. Or else there might be a more melancholic twist to this story.
The move won’t definitely be all roses for both of us, but it is definitely something we look forward to. Despite the challenges, what matters is that we’re together in tackling all of them. Before he arrives, I’ve volunteered to help him find a room to stay. Most of my friends here and back home are actually quite shocked about this gesture. Not because of my generosity, but because of the fact that I’m not sharing my room with him. I know it’s more practical and logical. A room for one person usually costs $500 ,while a room for a couple may cost $800. Big bargain right?! But honestly, there’s something about living together that doesn’t mesh well with my beliefs and personality. At least for now.
I’ve posted an ad on pinoysg.com, the Filipino portal here and I see ads saying “My bf and I are looking for a room for rent…”. I, on the other hand, am the only one who posted “Hi, I’m looking for a room for my bf…”. At first I thought twice before posting it, because I might get ridiculed and hear the same comment “Why don’t you just share a room?!” from online users. But I didn’t care. I wanted everyone to know that there are still some people who don’t believe in living in, not mainly because the Bible says so, but because they value their space and individuality, and most of all, their relationship. It’s not just about sharing a bed, a room and the bills. It’s about sharing your life with someone else, and I believe there should be a higher power or bond to enable lowly human beings to do that.
Read this artice I found on the Net and you'll know where I'm coming from. It really made a huge impact on me.
“Research shows that couples who use economics as their rationale for living together before marriage, saying that they are saving money for their wedding or for the marriage itself, almost never achieve those goals.
It's hard to save money when you're young, regardless of whether you're married or living together. But it's especially hard to do so when you're still independent of each other and free to pull out of the relationship anytime you want to. When you're married, you're more inclined to come up with a plan to save money (and to stick to it) because you're committed to each other for the long haul. If the most the two of you can plan financially is for a ring and a wedding, there's a problem. It takes only a few seconds of a wedding ceremony to say vows and exchange rings, but it takes years to live out those vows and to come to understand what it means to be yoked by that ring to another person.
If you have any illusions that living together before marriage increases your chances of staying married, forget that too. On the contrary, some research suggests that couples increase their chances of divorce when they cohabitate before marriage. That doesn't make sense, you're probably thinking. But consider this: Cohabitating couples are less likely to tackle the tough, thorny issues confronting their tenuous relationship when they are living together, and as such are at a disadvantage later on when they marry and are forced to see their mates in the new light that marriage casts upon the relationship. It's not unusual to feel deceived and dismayed once you marry after living together.
Let me put it to you this way: there's simply no preparation for marriage. You dive in and learn how to swim once you hit the water. Living together so you can save money for a ceremony that lasts for a few minutes is a risk. Living together so you can use the time to discover your compatibility is a farce. People change once those vows are spoken and they feel secure in their commitment. Living together is not a hedge against divorce. Hard work and commitment to each other over the long term is the only protection, if any.”
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More logical, isn’t it? Because most of all, I believe nothing is more stupid than risking our relationship and friendship, just to save money.
15 days na lang! And I still haven’t found a room for him hehe. :P
11:36 AM
Friday, September 14, 2007
